Talk to that person. It’s a good idea to talk to the person you think is being bullied to find out more about the situation. Try to remember that the person you are talking with could be very sensitive about the situation and could be scared to talk about it.
Let that person know you care. Help boost this person’s self-confidence. If a person is being bullied, it could affect his or her confidence. It can help to let this person know that you are a friend and that you care. It can also help to point out all the great things he or she has to offer others. Sometimes just by being a friend and being kind can make a huge difference to a person being bullied.
Include a person in your group. Make a special effort to include a person into your group if you know they’re having a hard time. They might not be a close friend but you could invite them to sit by you. You could walk with them and ask if they want to hang out with you and your friends, maybe invite them over on the weekend. Being bullied can make people feel very alone so by making the effort to be a friend can be a great way to support them.
Stick up for him or her. If you see someone is being bullied, it might be helpful to say something. Make it clear that you do not think that kind of behavior is cool or funny. If someone sends a message or tells you a rumor that you know is untrue, stand up and let the person know it is wrong. When bystanders watch on and do nothing to help you could be the one to say ‘Hey that’s not right, leave them alone” Sometimes when one person has the courage to speak out others will follow.
Speak to someone. Letting someone else know about the situation can help you solve the problem. Encourage the person to speak with a teacher, counselor, parent, family member or another adult that they trust. Or, you could go together and talk to someone about the situation. This might be a next step if the person being bullied has tried ignoring the bully, but they are continuing to be targeted.
If you’re a parent and want to know how to help your child – Here are some extra ideas
- Explain what bullying is and that it’s NEVER acceptable. Express your concern make it clear you want to help.
- Teach your child how to take a stand against bullying identify trusted adults who can help and what to say when asking for help.
- Talk to your child’s teacher instead of confronting the bully’s parents if no action is taken talk to the principal.
- Teach your child non-violent ways to deal with bullies. Like walking away or talking it out. Role-play bullying scenarios with your child.
- Help your child act with self-confidence. Practice walking upright, looking people in the eye and speaking clearly.
- Don’t encourage your child to fight. He or she could get hurt, get in trouble or start more serious problems with the bully.
- Involve your child in activities outside of school. This way they make friends in a different social circle.
Let them know that how they feel is important and you’re going to help and it will be ok!
Here are some other places that your child can find information or someone to talk to:
- www.youthline.co.nz – 0800 376 633 – is available 24/7 and has trained staff to listen and help kids figure out any problems.
- www.thelowdown.co.nz – all about helping youth and their families understand and deal with depression.
- www.kidsline.org.nz – 0800 54 37 54 – trained year 12 and 13 kids who will listen and help kids figure out options.